How To Write A Love Note
Throughout the holidays, I quizzed my friends about their gift-giving practices and rituals, and I learned that people want to receive gifts from the heart. One wise friend actually told me, “Stop worrying about what to give people. You’re a writer. Write something.”
She’s right, and there’s no better time than Valentine’s Day to practice the gift of writing in the form of a love note. So, I’ve been working on love notes. Here’s one:
I’m sitting here thinking of you and watching the roses fall apart on the wintering vines. I love how the wind catches the petals. They flutter, uplifted and playful in its embrace. You’re like that wind. Your love uplifts, inspires, and embraces me too, especially when I fall apart. I love you. Happy Valentine’s Day.
And here’s the Sexy Grammar Love Note Recipe, in 6 easy steps:
- Make a list of words to describe your love. Make two lists, nouns (lover, friend, playmate, conspirator) and adjectives (naughty, delicious, amorous, stunning) Set aside.
- Choose a theme or metaphor that has meaning for the two of you, such as a special type of flower, a cherished memory, the ocean, love, longing, or sex.
- Write Like A Slut about your theme. Set aside.
- Write Like A Slut about the feelings you want to express in your note, such as your gratitude or your lust. Set aside.
- In one swiftly penned sentence, explain what your theme has to do with your feelings. This is your big idea. Set aside.
- Put it all together.
- If you don’t already know how to Write Like A Slut, don’t worry. It’s easy, mostly safe-for-work, and very slut-positive. Just click over to the post about it.
- Write a lot, but keep the final draft short.
- Don’t be afraid to be cheesy, as long as you’re sincere.
Once you’ve followed the directions in steps 1-5, you’ll realize that the real trick is in putting it all together. Here are hints for putting it all together:
- Find your gems. Don’t expect to use all the content you created so swiftly. Instead, use the 1% Rule, and look for the best few words, the hottest ideas, and the turns of phrase that strike you as unique, beautiful, and specific.
- Organize your gems. You can use any old structure to get started. In my note above I start with the metaphor I want to use, the roses. Then I extend that metaphor a little, talking about the fluttering petals. Then I make the specific comparison and say what I really want to say. Call it the ol’ metaphor–metaphor–big idea structure. You could go with metaphor–big idea–big idea or the classic metaphor–big idea–metaphor structure. Get the idea?
- Use your noun and adjective lists to refine your big idea and describe your metaphor. Which words are the most personal? The most unique? The most flattering? The most romantic?